Sexual companions for people with different capacities

It is no secret to anyone that people with different abilities feel the same desire for intimacy, sex and companionship as any other person. Only, motivated by social prejudices, they can sometimes have difficulties having sex; currently exist sexual companions for people with different capacities, which manage to satisfy the needs of these people like any other.

What is the service of sexual companions for people with different capacities about?

It is when a sexual assistant professionally accompanies people with disabilities; helping them to have an active sexual life and to experience sexual freedom and access to their body or that of another person.

These VIP companions They do not usually practice prostitution in exchange for money as most think, but are willing to provide affection, intimacy and trust; establishing certain limits between the two, accompanying the person with a disability in everything they may need related to the sexual area; because it is a basic need of human beings.

Through this type of service, people who have disabilities; They manage to grow as people, improve their self-esteem, promote their autonomy, obtain self-knowledge and freedom, avoiding frustration.

Just as being active in sexual relationships helps them feel attractive and attracted to other people, improving their way of seeing life.

A true story of disabled sex

A particular case that you should know is that of the American poet and journalist Mark O`Brien; who suffered from a disability due to having an artificial lung that kept him in a wheelchair.

A strict religious upbringing and his physical difficulties never allowed him to associate with people of the opposite sex. But one day he decided that he must put an end to that impediment and did not want to die without having experienced having a sexual relationship.

In this way, and at 38 years of age, she decided to lose her virginity, resorting to sexual therapy to start in this world.

What are sexual assistance therapies?

They are also known as sexual accompaniment therapies and are aimed at people with neurological and physical difficulties; They have been carried out for more than 20 years in European countries, especially in Belgium, Switzerland and Denmark.

In these countries, the state is in charge of subsidizing this service, as well as if it were physiotherapy or kinesiology sessions. For example, in Barcelona, ​​Spain; There are organizations like Sex Assistant Catalunya, and in Argentina there is AMMAR; entities that are in charge of organizing training courses for sexual assistants.

At first it was thought that the difference between sexual assistance and sex work was training, but it is known that most women have been doing it forever; and every day this demand is growing, they know and provide a perspective on functional diversity.

Who does the sex assistance work?

Within these organizations there are also people who carry out the work as sexual companions for people with different abilities; each one decides how to approach the activity.

As for the demand, it is more coming from men; Because there are fewer women who demand this assistance and therefore there are very few men who work as assistants and of course there are also disabled people who are lesbians and gays.

In relation to the service itself, sometimes it involves couples where both have severe physical disabilities; their help may consist of looking for them and accompanying them to a private place and intervening in certain situations. The situation of a person with spinal cord injury can also be found; which means that it requires help to move around or if the person has a catheter it helps to remove it and even something simpler like putting on a condom.

As for sexual encounters, in the same way there is the option of having relations with the assistant. It is a proposal for certain occasions, since some people with disabilities had their first sexual encounter with an assistant.

With this, sexual assistance is not considered as a therapy or need, but as part of the desire that this person feels with difficulty. It is even noteworthy that many people with disabilities can have a stable, occasional or any other type of partner; But really, many of them do not agree to have sex, for reasons of discrimination.

Sex work for the disabled

In the organization AMMAR of Argentina, they carry out reflection sessions where they talk about the regulation of sex work; trying to incorporate the issue of people with different abilities.

This is because recently, sex workers are the only ones who attend to these people with disabilities in the sexual aspect and that is why an attempt is being made to give another framework to this work. The goal is to try to keep them from doing it out of pity or compassion; that the places where the disabled are treated do not have barriers for them and that they know what to do with a disabled person.

All this does not mean that by caring for disabled people, sex workers ennoble their work, instead it will be a union for the legalization of their activity. Both people with disabilities and escort girlsThey have suffered a lot of historical stigmatization and even against their will both groups want to rehabilitate.

Existing prejudices in sexual activities for the disabled

For many people, sexual assistance to people with different capacities generates controversy, it is something that cannot be judged as bad, because otherwise many have not been able to exercise their sexuality.

This is linked to the fact that prejudices that have become barriers intervene in disability. On the other hand, biased sexual assistance assumes that those with disabilities are asexual.

Although frankly it is not known if the best option is to exercise sexuality through assistants, but in reality it is the only one available. It is a mental taboo subject, because disabled people tend to be infantilized and in institutions like those mentioned above, the right to sexuality is not widely recognized.

Conclusion

In short, this whole issue of sex in exchange for money can be interpreted in different ways; even in the women's movement itself and the expression of sexuality in people with disabilities will depend on the breaking down of prejudices.

As these people with different abilities stop isolating themselves, their difficulties will become the same as those that all people have in bonding.

There are even women who not only work as sexual companions for people with different abilitiesInstead, there are men who do not have any disability and seek women with reduced abilities because they are attracted to them.